Do you constantly feel the need to be in a random and new relationship? Do you think you are head over heels in love with the one you instantly connected, within two weeks? Do you feel butterflies in your stomach when you see the person you “assumed” is destined to be with you? Do you instantly want to get married and start a family knowing them for three weeks, which seems eternity to you?
No, I am not sorry for being brutally honest but you are plain stupid if you think that you can just spend rest of your life with someone, talking to them on Social Media Platforms or meeting them for two-three weeks. You need to address some real issues within yourself.
Wikipedia defines infatuation as: the state of being completely carried away by unreasoning passion or love; addictive love. Infatuation usually occurs at the beginning of a relationship. It is characterized by urgency, intensity, sexual desire, and or anxiety, in which there is an extreme absorption in another.
Thinking we truly know the other individual by spending five–six days. We get vanished in the idea that we’ve have fallen head over heels in love with the other, therefore, securing our position as the new love interest. Realistically, a lot of teenagers, young adults and grown folks especially, prematurely enter into romantic situations hoping that a title and an update to their Facebook relationship status will cure their insecurities or loneliness. It seems that once some people establish a mutual attraction, they become all too willing to bypass the necessary process of learning that someone is beyond the first few table conversations that were held at a cafe.
We fool ourselves into believing that if we’re able to sit on the phone with someone for five hours the first night of meeting and six hours the next, then somehow it’s destined that a strong bond will bloom. And while most people want to fall in love and build a life with someone special, three four weeks may not be long enough to determine if your idea of “special” matches what this other person is willing or capable of offering. Often these kinds of relationships built on infatuation can die as quickly as they sprung up.
So, what do we grasp from this process? Anything? Something? Jumping into a relationship before truly knowing someone personally, learning them mentally and understanding who they are emotionally is truly a mistake. The first few weeks or month of the new relationship may be filled with passion and thrills. However, that level of excitement will only last for a short period of time – most often igniting the end of the quick pairing. It is very rare that these random, three-week, turnaround relationships survive the long haul. When the bond isn’t based on true love, the relationship has no real basis to exist or to survive.
A communications major, academic researcher, author, sunset photographer, and hardcore marketing professional with experience of over 6+ years in the industry, Lovey is always looking up witty ways to address taboo subjects in a simple yet hard-hitting manner.