Fear is like that annoying relative.

Wise folks out there chat about how fear is just a state of mind. And, Mr. Napoleon Hill said so as well. To me, fear is like that bothersome and pesky relative that follows you far and wide like a shadow and grows resistant to your rejection methods. My fears are severe. Oh, that kinda rhymed. I don’t want to be narcissistic again but escaping your galling shadow is not easy when it’s soaring on your head. It governs you, upsets and suppresses your inner feelings and overt behavior. Fears come in different forms and degrees just like us human species. Apparently, we are more alike than different. Fear contrasts from person to person and it can be eccentric. Overcoming fears is certainly not a cakewalk and munching cliché readings all over the internet doesn’t work either. You stop feeling zealous in the attendance of fear.

Now, is it wrong to have fears? Absolutely, no. We wouldn’t be human without our fears. Fears make us mortal but letting them override our minds makes us rather sad and dangerous.

I personally believe that there is nothing more essential than our mental and physical well-being. We must do only the best to keep our body, mind, and soul healthy. Healthy particularly doesn’t mean a bed of roses and all happy go lucky. It means an amalgamation of positive and negative.

You must be willing to do whatever it takes to ensure that your energy and mental health are both in order. I wouldn’t typically tell you to identify your fears first as that’s just out of the context. You exactly know what you are afraid of. Face it like it’s smaller than you and you can nail it. You are the protagonist of your life. You have the power within to beat all the odds. And, hey, you really are the star of your life. You shape it, you cultivate it, and you nail it on top. Nothing is greater than you. Not bookish at all, it’s true.

You will exhaust your fears if you think you can. When you know what troubles you, you get rid of it just like your senseless ex. Jokes apart, all it demands some courage and action. Stop compensating your fears rather focus on your strength and willpower to defeat daunting fears.

There must be some activities you are fond of Yoga, Meditation, Religious practices, Music, Physiotherapy, Dance, Cooking, Reading and what not. The sky is the limit. I am more than sure; it will not only benefit you but make you more joyful because I have also been there and conquered it.

Be open to all. Yes, you read that right. Bare your fears to your family and close friends. It’s better to share than anchoring it on your own for no fault of yours. Why let yourselves go through something that doesn’t let you have what you deserve, peace and happiness. Dump and flush your fears when they control you.


10 thoughts on “Annoying Relative”

  1. Its mainly overthinking. Secondly sharing is not good option all the times. You are your own saviour. Let yourself face the fears and let yourself conquer them.

    1. True, it’s mainly overthinking. Secondly, it is governed by the degree of fears to determine whether to bare your fears or not. Fear has an important role too as it is a vital response to physical and emotional danger, if we didn’t feel it, we couldn’t protect ourselves from legitimate threats. But often we fear situations that are far from life-or-death and thus hang back for no good reason. Traumas or bad experiences can trigger a fear response within us that is hard to quell and that is where we need the support of our family or friends. Yet exposing ourselves to our personal demons is the best way to move past them.

      1. Well the hardest part is sharing them and i do agree with that unless we expose ourselves to our fears we cant move past them.

  2. Very well said. I believe fear it is a state of mind. As you very well said in one sentence that we all have fear but we don’t have to let us define us or control us. I’m paraphrasing here. I have had my share of situations when fear of dying really was very present, but you never let it paralise you if not you are done.
    I have several quotes I post on the wall, one is “What are you going to accomplish today?” And focus all your energies on whatever it is, as small of a task others might think it is, but for me is a great task to overcome. What is easy for some is difficult for others, we are all different. “Never feel pitty for yourself” Another quote I have put in my wall.
    Great post.

    1. You paraphrased it even better than me. You are one brave and strong person as you do not let it ever paralyze your mental state. I have also had a few where one was in relation to a terrorist attack, not something I would like to recall but it was really bad. I always glance through all your posts and they are encouraging yet practical. Thank you for letting me know what you had in mind.

        1. Yes, there was one a few years ago and it was grave. I was really close to the place and almost lost a friend to it. You must have been a great army man. I am sure, you have a lot of stories to tell.

          1. Stories to tell I have a too many , the fun, the boredom, the ugly, and the rest. But that is the past, so I try to focus on the future, and fear wich was the thing of your post if I remember correctly, I did lie, I am fearlless, I just assume that I’ m gonna dioing that job, and in the civilian world when I get in to fights, wich now in my small town just a few want to get me, the rest when they came in groups and me just one, they walked off, it some they could, in my mind if you talk about fear that is wdeakness and for me that word is related to fighting, allthough my mother tells me to clean a dish and that is fear if I don’t do it, I guess you got it

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