Do you constantly feel the need to be in a random and new relationship? Do you think you are head over heels in love with the one you instantly connected, within two weeks? Do you feel butterflies in your stomach when you see the person you “assumed” is destined to be with you? Do you instantly want to get married and start a family knowing them for three weeks, which seems eternity to you?

No, I am not sorry for being brutally honest but you are plain stupid if you think that you can just spend rest of your life with someone, talking to them on Social Media Platforms or meeting them for two-three weeks. You need to address some real issues within yourself.

Wikipedia defines infatuation as: the state of being completely carried away by unreasoning passion or love; addictive love. Infatuation usually occurs at the beginning of a relationship. It is characterized by urgency, intensity, sexual desire, and or anxiety, in which there is an extreme absorption in another.

Thinking we truly know the other individual by spending five–six days. We get vanished in the idea that we’ve have fallen head over heels in love with the other, therefore, securing our position as the new love interest. Realistically, a lot of teenagers, young adults and grown folks especially, prematurely enter into romantic situations hoping that a title and an update to their Facebook relationship status will cure their insecurities or loneliness. It seems that once some people establish a mutual attraction, they become all too willing to bypass the necessary process of learning that someone is beyond the first few table conversations that were held at a cafe.

We fool ourselves into believing that if we’re able to sit on the phone with someone for five hours the first night of meeting and six hours the next, then somehow it’s destined that a strong bond will bloom. And while most people want to fall in love and build a life with someone special, three four weeks may not be long enough to determine if your idea of “special” matches what this other person is willing or capable of offering. Often these kinds of relationships built on infatuation can die as quickly as they sprung up.

So, what do we grasp from this process? Anything? Something? Jumping into a relationship before truly knowing someone personally, learning them mentally and understanding who they are emotionally is truly a mistake. The first few weeks or month of the new relationship may be filled with passion and thrills. However, that level of excitement will only last for a short period of time – most often igniting the end of the quick pairing. It is very rare that these random, three-week, turnaround relationships survive the long haul. When the bond isn’t based on true love, the relationship has no real basis to exist or to survive.

4 thoughts on “Love Me, Because I Am Needy?”

  1. I stumbled on your blog and thanks to somebody who shared one of your posts on Facebook. I have observed little nuances in your writing. You address variety of issues exactly how you have mentioned in your about. You are versatile in your cognitive process. How you always say “we” instead of I. How you feel strongly about everything you write about. You don’t write anything just for the sake of it. Do you? You respond to people with positivity while acknowledging negative vibes. You are not scared to admit your bad and sad days. Your feelings are all over the place which makes you real and raw. In today’s world where people are afraid to show their true feelings and say sweet things that are likeable. You are a breath of fresh air. I love how you add little flicks of humour here and there. And I am not flirting with you. I am a woman. So chill, keep doing whatever the fuck you want (in your language). You are as lovely as your name.

    1. I’ve been reading your comment over and over again from the past two days. I didn’t know what to say so I didn’t. I can’t fathom the fact that you took out the time to go through all of these crazy posts to observe and pick out little details that I don’t even consciously take care of. I have realized it only after you put it forward that I always use “we” because it is not a mindful decision and I just believe in harmony. I can’t even thank you enough for going through this blog and writing about how you felt about it. It’s very constructive and moving. And, yes, I can’t write just for the sake of it. It just wouldn’t come naturally to me. You know what I mean? I love my bad days as much as I cherish good days. We learn from bad days right? You understood that only by reading all of it? Wow…You are something. You are funny. Thanks for clarifying that you are a woman because I don’t see many women encouraging another. It’s sad but true. Thank you. You are the kindest. Your name is beautiful. Thank you for stopping by. Keep in touch. <3

  2. Interesting one! and this type of jumping onto relationships fuels the break-up leagues, then it becomes vicious circle of make up and break ups. Surely we need time, personal meetings.. Hope it serves as the eye openers to those who are in a rush!

    1. Exactly, we then begin the blame game after the break ups and make ups. We never study our own pattern of getting into relationships. We are constantly in a rush to do “tasks” which makes relationship or marriage seem like a chore and we want to be done with it as soon as possible without building foundation for real and pure relationship. We need time and functional brain to take right decisions of life. Because time is precious and we can’t be wasting it with anybody just like that over and over again. Thank you 

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