I love Men. I am totally into Men. They are amazing (I am a meninist too).
Why Do We Need “Feminism”?
Feminists do not believe women are better than men, or that women deserve special privileges. They do not believe women are victims. In order to be considered a feminist, you only need to be on board with one idea: All humans, male and female, should have equal political, economic and social rights. (Go to my very first post and read about Rights that are denied to women even after centuries).
Our Cinema talks about women looking for freedom. But, how many men in our society have a chance to do that? They are made to bear the burden of earning a living even before they can understand what it means to work for a living. It’s an unjust situation for both men and women. It doesn’t justify Equality at all.
Somebody recently discussed with me, “when men get sexually objectified by women all over, nobody bats an eye. But when women get sexually objectified, everyone loses their mind.”
Ok. Good point. I agree. But then heaps of thoughts in my mind came up abruptly and I wriggled to bring together some of them. So, how many songs have been written and films made about women being drooled over, stopped in their tracks, harassed, raped, assaulted, stalked, publicly humiliated and used as a commodity compared to men, especially in Indian movies?
- How many news writings have been reported about women being assaulted for wearing flimsy clothing? for “asking for it” or for “tarnishing the family honor” or “disobeying religion“? or for saying “NO” to a guy trying to dance (basically rub his crotch on her) with them at the club?
- How many men have been scarred for life by women’s lust, physically, sexually and mentally, compared to women? I definitely don’t discount that they’re not, but how many in comparisons? Less or more?
- How many sexual offers and nude pictures do men get from women just based on his Facebook display picture, compared to what women get from men?
- How many ads have been published through history that tells people to keep men “in their place” compared to those made about showing and keeping women in their place?
- How many stealthy videos are there on YouTube of men changing in trial rooms and hotel bathrooms, compared to women?
- How many men have been blackmailed with nudes compared to women, by men? I am sure they’ve been but how many?
- How often have female domestic help workers been raped and sexually assaulted, or threatened by male employers, compared to male domestic help workers by women in the facility?
- How many lewd item songs have been made about men and their body parts, and sung at them nearly every time they step outside or board public transport?
- How many “drooling women” have thrown acid on the faces of the men they wanted but couldn’t have as compared to men doing the same?
- How often do you see pregnant South Asian women covering their bellies with a scarf or loose clothing in public, compared to men scratching their privates at the bus stop or roads?
So, the answers to all of those must be “Women face all of those more in comparison to Men“, if you are living in a real world. The sexual objectification of Men by women hardly ever results in them being attacked, acids thrown at their face, killed, and raped on buses by women, whereas women’s sexual objectification is an everyday battle that has no expiration. We face it in our homes, among our families, in schools, in religious spaces, at malls, on TV, in public transport, in private transport, or even while taking a simple walk clad in the un-sexiest, “least sexually objectifying” clothing to the grocery store. And, That is why, We need Feminism, for all the traditional and right reasons.