30 Things About Life I Don’t Understand

  1. I don’t understand quantum particles at all.
  2. I don’t understand what is it like to be a bat or owl?
  3. I don’t understand how to make lipstick stay on like eternity
  4. I don’t understand why we don’t talk about mental illness freely.
  5. I don’t understand the satisfaction of speaking down to others.
  6. I don’t understand the high we get from posting on social media or the low we feel from viewing other’s.
  7. I don’t understand litter. I totally judge people when they blatantly clutter around and denounce responsibilities of a good citizen.
  8. I don’t understand “free will.” Do we have free will? No, we don’t. We’ve to think gazillions times about everything and everybody else before making a decision for ourselves.
  9. I don’t understand the perfect system of Government. For as long as human civilization has existed, government has been necessary for the maintenance of civil order and organized distribution of resources. Every civilization has developed its own codes of law and society. However, history stands testament to the fact that the ideal system of government has never been realized. Governments can never be perfect.
  10. I definitely don’t understand pineapple on pizza.
  11. I don’t understand why do we try to fit in when we are born to stand out?
  12. I don’t understand why people take on the mission to get you married only to coerce you to breed later?
  13. I don’t understand why do we always try to please people? Why are we afraid to say “NO”? Can’t they please themselves? C’mon, be self-sufficient buddy!
  14. I don’t understand why women can’t show love and respect for each other than getting jealous and competitive?
  15. I don’t understand plastic spoons that deceivingly look like straws. They come with food to make our lives easier. They are useless and not ready to bend to satisfy my ego.
  16. I don’t understand why people honk incessantly in a traffic jam. Does your vehicle fly? Fuck…Go fly over me. Stop honking.
  17. I don’t understand “Respect your elders” childhood lesson. Now, I am all about respecting elders in the sense that if i was on a bus and an elderly woman came onto the bus, I would happily give up my seat for her. However, I don’t believe that we should respect everything someone says just because they are older. Let’s be real, being older doesn’t make you a good or smart person. Growing up though, I had no choice because I was taught that age defines how much respect you should receive.
  18. I don’t understand how human beings with their sharp intelligence find it painfully challenging to do little things to make world a better place.
  19. I don’t understand how people can just out rightly judge others without even knowing or meeting them.
  20. I don’t understand what mosquitoes say when they buzz around my ears.
  22. I don’t understand the difference between ‘Adopted Children’ and ‘Real Children’. I simply don’t get it. There just seems to be such a strong difference between ‘I want to parent a child’ and ‘I want to parent my child’. And, i believe that every time someone adopts a child they are redefining family, because their new family is nothing less than any other family. And it’s a powerful exciting thing. People can be beyond stupid sometimes.
  23. I don’t understand how 3 minutes with the wrong person feels like an eternity, yet 3 hours with the right one, feels like only a moment.
  24. I don’t understand how a dog doesn’t care if you’re rich or poor, clever or dull, smart or dumb. Give him your heart and he’ll give you his. I mean, my heart just melts like a candle.
  25. I don’t understand people not loving themselves. C’mon, you gotta be obsessed yourself first. Move like you own the world I am telling you. You are fucking great.
  26. I don’t understand why we feel trapped all the fucking time. Because there is no such thing as “free will.”
  27. I don’t understand when my brain says; be patient while my heart says; until when.
  28. I don’t know why we bash ourselves and others. We are all humans and we all make mistakes. Move on.
  29. There is one thing about books I don’t understand. They let you travel without moving your feet.
  30. I don’t understand all the things I want out of life.

What will be your top five if you had to compile a list like this? Do you resonate with any of these? Please let me know if you think the same at any point. I would love to know your thoughts.

12 thoughts on “30 Things”

  1. Its completely normal to not understand all of this Lovey, and yeah when i checked about adopting a child, some said, i had to me married to be eligible, i truly didn’t understand the logic!

    1. Neither do I understand several things. Some things can be quite perplexing to our inner self. Sushmita Sen had to go through a great ordeal of 4 years to adopt her little ones and so many others.

  2. I agree that so much of this is baffling, Lovey. But I do think we have a choice about how we engage with the world, a choice about our attitudes, about things like kindness and compassion. So I think we do have free will, not about our circumstances, necessarily, but about the person we choose to be. We can choose not to be the reflections of our world, but its creators.

    1. I have fortunately learned that with time. But, i can’t tell the same to traumatized people when they lose their family member in a terrorist attack, are made to feel like untouchables by society because they don’t fit in set superficial standards. I recently came across a family whose young daughter has been sold and trafficked to an unknown part of the world. I could only muster up the nerve to say “what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” I agree, we cannot control what happens to us, but we can control our attitude toward what happens to us, and in that, we will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master us. Thank you for your encouraging and beautiful words. I adore you.

      1. I completely agree that in the midst of tragedy it’s not the time to talk about attitude and choice. It’s time for compassion and empathy. It’s later, when people have to form a vision of the future, that understanding their choices is vitally important.

  3. I agree with you concerning many of your questions. Highlighting a few: #17- Elders/ I was always taught that there was an unspoken contingent, the older person had to be reasoned. “Respect” was given to all. An “Elder” is an experienced person to whom you are willing to defer, an “older” person has lived longer. #14-Women/ because women are human and as such are capable of self serving behavior and pettiness. #18- Better world/ because each person has a different vision of how a better world would look. Most differ on the best way to get there. #28- Mistakes/ this question answers many of your other questions. Being able to forgive another’s mistake requires understanding their humanity. Humanity, in general, is a mess of both commonality and divergence. Each has a voice regardless of message. Respect.
    Brilliant post!

    1. I appreciate how you’ve pointed out a few. I understand how crucial it is to be willing to forgive others in life, mostly for our own self. Let bygones be bygones. However, it is to easier said than done but we can try. Right? “Humanity, in general, is a mess of both commonality and divergence.” How beautiful is this sentence? Thank you very much for making this post worthwhile. I love it when people read my posts and leave crazy long feedback to express themselves about the matter.

      1. Lovey, thank you for creating the post. It is heartfelt and intriguing. I truly enjoyed both reading it and then contemplating the interconnectedness of each question. Again, brilliant!

        1. You are so kind to have taken out so much time for reading and leaving feedback. Although, I think the post is quite average. However, I wholeheartedly appreciate it. I certainly enjoyed your contemplation. Gratitude for your encouraging words. Thank you for hanging out on this blog.

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