“I used to loathe ambivalence; now I adore it. Ambivalence is my new best friend.” – Suzanne Finnamore
We should focus on a better future: reduce strain, reuse skills, and recycle Life.
Nobody is ever “damaged goods”: We don’t grow up to view ourselves as commodities. Calling others “damaged goods” is like saying nobody should ever be different from one another. Their lives just took a certain path, they had a different experience, and they are healing and moving on. Everyone has different experiences, and we are obviously willing to examine our life path and do things to make ourselves happy. Allowing someone else to label us or our life is never helpful. We need kindness and compassion, not pessimism!
Divorce is probably as painful as death. Most of the time, the first marriage is a tune up for the second. It is a process to learn the value of a quality relationship and partner. The perfect relationship is anyway hard to have. We need to remind ourselves, “This too shall pass.”
Divorce isn’t such a tragedy. A tragedy is staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching our children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce. We are all together in this, be it men or women. We all go through similar struggles in life. In Life, get up and start again.